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Is my husband gay? Is my wife a lesbian?

You’ve had suspicions that it’s true. There are red flags that literally millions of Straight Spouses experience: a lack of interest in having sex with you, watching gay porn, suspicious phone calls, unexplained absences, strange financial expenses. Once you suspect or realize your spouse is not straight, it can blind side you.

I’m not Gay
Sometimes a gay husbands or lesbian wives will come out of the closet voluntarily. That can be difficult enough for a Straight Spouse. But sometimes, even if you have solid evidence of their same-sex attraction or activities, some LGBT spouses cannot, or will not admit they’re gay. They choose to stay on the down-low; many having constructed a world of covert sexual practices. Their denial can make it seem impossible for you to find clarity and make any decision on how to move forward.

Transgenders 
We have many Straight Spouses whose husband or wife has revealed their opposite gender identity. Although Transgenderism is very unique, you still have the same challenges as all Straight Spouses. We are no strangers to your situation. We’re here to support you 100%

Bisexuals 
Bisexuality is not a free pass to cheat on one's spouse. You need to talk to others about your hopes, fears and options. We’re here for you.

Shock, Anger, Sadness 
The truth can be shocking. You feel betrayed and offended. Often, family, friends and therapists simply can’t relate. You’re left feeling alone, confused and powerless.

Where can you go for help? 
Right here! The Straight Spouse Network is made up of volunteers who have been partners of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender mates. Groups are All Inclusive. We understand how painful this is for you. Our goal is to help you to make sense of your situation by providing personal, confidential support, information and insights. You will no longer feel you’re alone in this.

EMAIL OR CALL FOR SUPPORT NOW 

Only for Straight Spouses looking for support: Email us by filling out our confidential contact form (blue button below). Or, call 773/413-8213. Your call or email will be processed within 48 hours. A Triage representative will respond to your request and give you information on the Straight Spouse Network Group Facilitator or Support Contact nearest you. Any communication with us will be strictly confidential.

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INQUIRIES
Broadcast Media, Publications, Documentarians, Speakers, Submissions 
For interviews or media proposals of any kind, submissions by author/writers/vidiographers, or for finding a qualified Straight Spouse Network Speaker to take part in your event or presentation, contact our Communications Director HERE

A 14 minute video for all Straight Spouses.

Straight Spouse Network is a ‘lifesaver’...

“To suggest that the Straight Spouse Network is a ‘lifesaver’ is not hyperbole.  It is a fact. I am living proof. When my former husband of nearly 30 years told me he was gay, I prayed to die in my sleep....My life changed in so many ways as a result of my relationship with Straight Spouse Network” –P.

An extremely isolating situation ...

“Straight Spouse Network helped me move through a very difficult process. It is an extremely isolating situation. The fact that some wonderful Straight person is willing to be on the other side of a screen or the other end of a phone conversation is invaluable. Being able to cry and laugh about the circumstances that arise is so important." – A.

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IN THE NEWS

PODCASTS

Our founder, Amity Buxton, has produced a series of podcasts which detail how the Straight Spouse Network got started, what we do, and our vision for the future.

Amity discusses the Straight Spouse Experience and expectations that are sometimes placed on us. “The only sign you can notice is in the rear view mirror,” she says, answering the all too common question we straight spouses sometimes encounter about why we didn’t know, and what were the signs. She also addresses the diversity of experiences with mixed orientation couples, and explains how our support groups work. 

To learn more about the Straight Spouse Network, our Founder, and our philosophies, CLICK HERE

THE ORLANDO TRAGEDY
An Official Statement from
The Straight Spouse Network
Board of Directors 

NPR REPORT ON THE STRAIGHT SPOUSE EXPERIENCE FEATURING AMITY BUXTON

A Place For Straight Spouses After Their Mate Comes Out Of The Closet : NPR

NPR RADIO INTERVIEW WITH CARTER CORTELYOU 
http://michiganradio.org/post/network-offers-support-straight-exes-lgbt-who-come-out#stream/0

ARTICLE: WHAT ABOUT THE VICTIM OF THE VICTIM OF HOMOPHOBIA? 
Featuring Amity Buxton 
http://www.popmatters.com/column/196369-what-about-the-victim-of-the-victim-of-homophobia/

SUPREME COURT DECISION ON SAME-SEX MARRIAGE 
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 Silent Sagas: Unsung Sorrows
Louella Christy Komuves' book and insightful, informative
television interview. >more 

Straight Spouse Network featured in Equal Magazine
Straight Spouse Network was key in creating a “blended family”.>more

Amity P. Buxton, Ph.D. featured on Spot Lite Radio-
Straight Spouse Network founder Amity Buxton was recently featured on Spot Lite Radio talking about the Network, our new website and her new book Unseen-Unheard: Straight Spouses from Trauma to Transformation (2013) See more at: http://www.straightspouse.org/#sthash.NcifoEAm.dpuf >more

 

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