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WELCOME TO THE STRAIGHT SPOUSE NETWORK

We Support Straight Spouses who discover, or suspect their husbands, wives or partners are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. We have Support Groups and Support Contacts worldwide who are dedicated to helping you during cope and get through this unexpected journey.

Is my husband gay, bisexual, or transgender?
Red flags: Lack of intimacy, suspicious phone calls, unexplained absences, gay pornography, online sex, evidence of same sex encounters, cross-dressing. Whether he comes out, is in denial, or will not admit the truth, it compromises your marriage and your health.

Is my wife a lesbian, bisexual, transgender?
There can be many signs one sees and chooses to ignore. When the truth does come out, it will create long-term affects and challenges to your marriage.

HEALING
We provide peer support, research-based information, and tools for coping constructively to help you heal and move toward a healthy family re-configuration.

REACHING OUT
Through the media to increase public awareness of what Straight Spouses experience and increase their access to Straight Spouse Network resources.

BUILDING BRIDGES
to increase social acceptance for the LGBT population in the community and with professionals in health and education. The end result hopefully being  fewer straight/closeted-LGBT marriages.

PROVIDING RESOURCES
Explore our website for: Face-to-face support groups and personal Support Contacts • Online groups for both spouses in mixed-orientation and transgender/non-transgender marriages who want to stay together • Groups for the Children • Resources for LGBT advocacy, equality and justice • Books, Blogs and more

EMAIL OR CALL FOR SUPPORT NOW!
For Straight Spouse Support, click here: contact form .
Or call  773/413-8213 for Support now!
Email and phone contact are for Straight Spouses looking for support only! One of our Triage Team members will respond  asap. Sometimes, due to the high volume of requests, it may take up to 48 hours. Triage will put you in touch your closest Straight Spouse Network qualified Support Group Facilitator or Support Contact. They will give you the personal, confidential attention, support and information you so desperately need. We’re here to help you get through this difficult journey. 

Immediate Support Options
Any communication with us will be strictly confidential. Calls and emails go directly to a member of our Triage Team, who returns calls and emails as soon as possible.

MEDIA INQUIRIES, PUBLIC RELATIONS and RESEARCH  
Publications, News Agencies, Organizations, Learning Institutions, Research Inquiries and Documentarians should contact
Janet McMonagle, Communications Director,  janet@straightspouse.org
for interviews with a qualified SSN Representative, requests for a qualified SSN Speaker to make a presentation at a gathering or event, or information on research materials.

A 14 minute video for all Straight Spouses.

Because Straight Spouse Network Helped Me...

“...there hasn’t been anyone I felt I could really talk to about any of this.  I feel as if I have been trapped in the closet with him.  I have so many questions about how to handle so many aspects of this situation ...The fact that Straight Spouse Network contacted me so quickly is so comforting and uplifting; even though it makes me almost want to cry,  perhaps because I have waited and suffered for so long.  It is amazing to know that I am not alone and someone cares.”
D. in Pasadena, CA

IGNORANCE IS NOT BLISS
Or why you shouldn’t protect your children from the truth

For the last eight years, time has stood still. When I look back at who I was then, I see an ambitious single working her way up the creative ladder of the bustling film industry in Los Angeles. I was on my own in a brave new world full of endless possibilities, building a life that would take me on a great adventure. It was a life being built upon the foundation of everything I had learned throughout my childhood and all that I hoped to discover as an adult. Then the foundation crumbled...Continued in personal stories 

PAYING IT FORWARD! 
"I am making this donation ($1,000) to celebrate the 5 year anniversary of my husband coming out of the closet. My life is so much better thanks to the support of all of you. Thank you for what you do." – Anon.

 

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THE ORLANDO TRAGEDY
An Official Statement from
The Straight Spouse Network
Board of Directors

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VOY FORUM

For several years, the VOY Forum has been a primary means of support for many Straight Spouses.
We recently had to replace the old forum's provider. You can now find it here.

News&Notes

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IN THE NEWS

A NEW WEBSITE  FOR YOUNG ADULTS WHOSE PARENTS ARE STRAIGHT SPOUSES 

NEW NPR REPORT ON THE STRAIGHT SPOUSE EXPERIENCE FEATURING AMITY BUXTON

A Place For Straight Spouses After Their Mate Comes Out Of The Closet : NPR

NPR MICHIGAN'S RADIO INTERVIEW WITH STRAIGHT SPOUSE NETWORK'S CARTER CORTELYOU 
http://michiganradio.org/post/network-offers-support-straight-exes-lgbt-who-come-out#stream/0

POPMATTERS ARTICLE: WHAT ABOUT THE VICTIM OF THE VICTIM OF HOMOPHOBIA? 
Featuring Amity Buxton 
http://www.popmatters.com/column/196369-what-about-the-victim-of-the-victim-of-homophobia/

LOVE WINS! SUPREME COURT DECISION ON SAME-SEX MARRIAGE 
more

Grace and Frankie Delivers
A Straight take on the comedic series starring Jane Fonda, Lily Tomlin, Martin Sheen and Sam Waterston.  >more

New Book! A Straight Husband's Story
We're very excited to announce the release of  How to Lose Your Wife to Another Woman, by fellow straight spouse, James Oliver Chapman. To read more about this candid and insightful story click here.  >more

Silent Sagas: Unsung Sorrows
Louella Christy Komuves' book and insightful, informative
television interview. >more 

Straight Spouse Network featured in Equal Magazine Article-
Straight Spouse Network was key in creating a “blended family”.>more

Amity P. Buxton, Ph.D. featured on Spot Lite Radio-
Straight Spouse Network founder Amity Buxton was recently featured on Spot Lite Radio talking about the Network, our new website and her new book Unseen-Unheard: Straight Spouses from Trauma to Transformation (2013) See more at: http://www.straightspouse.org/#sthash.NcifoEAm.dpuf >more

 

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