WELCOME TO THE STRAIGHT SPOUSE NETWORK
Is my husband gay? Is my wife a lesbian?
You’ve had suspicions that it’s true. There are red flags that literally millions of Straight Spouses experience: a lack of interest in having sex with you, watching gay porn, suspicious phone calls, unexplained absences, strange financial expenses. Once you suspect or realize your spouse is not straight, it can blind side you.
I’m not Gay!
Sometimes a gay husband or lesbian wife will come out of the closet voluntarily. That can be difficult enough for a Straight Spouse. But sometimes, even if you have solid evidence of their same-sex attraction or activities, some LGBT spouses cannot, or will not admit they’re gay. They choose to stay on the down-low; many having constructed a world of covert sexual practices. Their denial can make it seem impossible for you to find clarity and make any decision on how to move forward. You need to know you are not delusional. Our support groups include a large number of people who are in the same situation.
My Spouse is Transgender
Straight Spouses whose husbands or wives have revealed their opposite gender identity are coming to us for support in ever greater numbers. Being married to, or in a relationship with a Transgender person is very confusing, for both mates. The struggle to understand this phenomenon and witness the physical changes involved seem unfathomable. While being supportive, straight spouses have to realize it's important and acceptable to take time to focus on themselves. Though the situation is incredibly unique, there are still the common challenges all Straight Spouses have in the face of undeniable and painful change. You are not alone. We’re here to support you 100%! Go to our FAQ menu, Coming Out for more information.
When a husband or wife reveals that they are bisexual, some couples successfully remain together. But, bisexuality is not a free pass to cheat on one's spouse. You need to talk to others about your challenges and options. We’re here for you. Go to our FAQ menu, Coming Out for more information.
Shock, Anger, Sadness
Emotions can be overwhelming. The truth can be shocking. You feel betrayed and offended. Sometimes, family and friends simply can’t relate. Many will most likely be more accepting in time. But in the beginning, you’re left feeling alone, confused and powerless. This is not abnormal and in time, it will get better. Sharing your experience with others who have survived this life changing experience, is one of the most comforting things you can do for yourself.
Where can you go for help?
Right here! The Straight Spouse Network is made up of volunteers who have been partners of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender mates. Groups are All Inclusive. We understand how painful this is for you. Our goal is to help you to make sense of your situation by providing personal, confidential support, information and insights. You will no longer feel you’re alone in this.
EMAIL OR CALL FOR SUPPORT NOW
Only for Straight Spouses looking for support: Email us by filling out our confidential contact form (blue button below). Or, call 773/413-8213. Your call or email will be processed within 48 hours. A Triage representative will respond to your request and give you information on the Straight Spouse Network Group Facilitator or Support Contact nearest you. Any communication with us will be strictly confidential.
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MEDIA INQUIRIES - News Organizations, Journalists, Publications, Film and Television, Events, Speakers
For media proposals of any kind: interviews, proposals from video or film makers, book submissions for our review; or for finding a qualified Straight Spouse Network Speaker to take part in your event or presentation, contact our Communications Director HERE. (For Blog related issues go to top menu, Straight Talk Blog.)