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Is my husband gay?  

You’ve had suspicions. You’re pretty sure, or are positive, that it’s true. There are countless red flags that literally millions of straight spouses see; lack of interest in having sex with you, suspicious phone calls, unexplained absences - it can be an endless list. It can blind side you. 

 He insists he's not gay! 

Sometimes a gay husband will come out of the closet voluntarily. But many refuse to admit they’re gay, even with solid evidence of their same-sex attraction or activities. Maybe you found text messages, online evidence that they're on sites like Grinder, you've found unexplained used condoms, or explicit pictures on their phones. But they still deny it and that makes you feel like you're going crazy. They choose to stay on the down-low; having constructed a world of covert sexual behaviors. They keep you prisoner in the closet with them. Their denial can make it seem impossible for you to break free.  

Is my wife a lesbian?

Some women are brave enough to just tell you they're lesbian, or bi. Some hint at it by telling you they had a girlfriend when they were younger, but it was not big deal. No matter how you find out the truth, it is devastating. It shatters your world. Now what do you do?

Shock, Anger and Sadness

You feel betrayed and are deeply affected. Often, family, friends and therapists simply can’t relate. You need answers and clarity in order to move forward.

Where can you go for help? 

Right here! We’ve been partners of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender mates. We understand how painful and confusing this is for you. You can talk to a support contact right away. We'll put you in touch the closest available Straight Spouse Network Support Group - led by one of our many, qualified facilitators. You'll get the personal, confidential support and information you so desperately need right now. We're here to help you get through this difficult journey.

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 Call  201-825-7763, or Email Us using our contact form.

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Any communication with us will be strictly confidential. Calls and emails go directly to our Executive Director, Kathy Callori, who returns calls and emails within 24 to 48 hours.

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Because Straight Spouse Network Helped Me...

“...there hasn’t been anyone I felt I could really talk to about any of this.  I feel as if I have been trapped in the closet with him.  I have so many questions about how to handle so many aspects of this situation ...The fact that Straight Spouse Network contacted me so quickly is so comforting and uplifting; even though it makes me almost want to cry,  perhaps because I have waited and suffered for so long.  It is amazing to know that I am not alone and someone cares.”
D. in Pasadena, CA

PAYING IT FORWARD! 
"I am making this donation ($1,000) to celebrate the 5 year anniversary of my husband coming out of the closet. My life is so much better thanks to the support of all of you. Thank you for what you do." – Anon. 


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Tampa Bay Times Article
Exploring challenges of Straight Spouses. Read it here! http://tbteedition.fl.newsmemory.com/

Slate E-zine article features SSN
"How Straight Spouses Cope..."
Read it here!
 http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2014/10/09/
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New Book! A Straight Husband's Story
We're very excited to announce the release of  How to Lose Your Wife to Another Woman, by fellow straight spouse, James Oliver Chapman. To read more about this candid and insightful story click here.  >more

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During an in-depth interview, Carolyn shares her fascinating journey.>more

Amity Buxton featured on Spot Lite Radio-
Straight Spouse Network founder Amity Buxton was recently featured on Spot Lite Radio talking about the Network, our new website and her new book "Unseen-Unheard: Journey of Straight Spouses."  >more

Documentary Debuts-
"I Thought It Was Forever"
What would you do if you found out your husband or wife was secretly gay?  As you’ll see in "I Thought It Was Forever," the answer isn’t as clear cut as most would think.  Read more on the movie's website.

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