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I Thought It Was Forever

Posted on April 29, 2013 by Straight Spouse

We thought it was forever. We also thought our spouses were heterosexual, or at least interested enough in the opposite sex to commit to a marriage with us. Continue reading →

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How To Help Someone Get Help

Posted on March 9, 2013 by Straight Spouse

The best thing is to direct straight spouses and their supportive family members to the Straight Spouse Network website. Here they will find shared experiences, a public forum to read, resources for more information and online support communities, and best of all, a connection to reach out for more help at the top of the home page. Continue reading →

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People Like Us In The News

Posted on January 31, 2013 by Straight Spouse

Its very clear that the media is starting to notice the phenomenon of gay people marrying straight people Continue reading →

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When Holidays Aren’t Happy

Posted on December 23, 2012 by Straight Spouse

The best thing you can do for yourself and your loved ones in a holiday season that follows disclosure, discovery, or divorce is to go forward. Recognize that this is a transition. Continue reading →

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Where I Wasn’t……9/11 Remembered

Posted on September 11, 2011 by Straight Spouse

There is no doubt in my mind 9/11 clearly represents both sides of the proverbial coin. Yet my real story begins and ends with where I wasn’t. Continue reading →

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So What’s Next? Life!

Posted on March 31, 2010 by Straight Spouse

What happens next? After disclosure, after discovery, after divorce – what happens after the drama of a marriage ending because one of the partners is gay or lesbian? What happens to the forgotten partner, the straight spouse? Continue reading →

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China’s 25 Million Plus Straight Spouses

Posted on March 22, 2010 by Straight Spouse

China is home to a possible 25 million wives of gay men. The women are known as tongqi, combining the words “tongzhi” (comrade) & “qizi” (wife in Mandarin). Continue reading →

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Book Review: Mennonite in a Little Black Dress

Posted on February 28, 2010 by Straight Spouse

Book Review: Mennonite in a Little Black Dress: A Memoir of Going Home by Rhoda Janzen Rhoda Janzen’s candid, hilarious memoir proves that you can always go home, even when home is to your Mennonite parents. What problem can’t be … Continue reading →

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Happy Valentine’s Day

Posted on February 14, 2010 by Straight Spouse

So the question is, how does a straight spouse survive Valentine’s day? The answer: do something for yourself. That sounds simple enough, but it really isn’t. Many straight spouses have become so enmeshed in the drama, that they have neglected to nurture themselves, and enjoy the things they like. So Valentine’s day is a day to do what is good for you – and figure that out. Continue reading →

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To Tell the Truth? Or Not?

Posted on December 31, 2009 by Straight Spouse

“Well, I’m not surprised. What, you mean you didn’t know? Oh, of course we all knew. Well, see, I figured you knew and it was none of my business. “So here’s the question that goes with the above answer: “HOW COME YOU DIDN’T TELL ME I WAS MARRYING A GAY PERSON IF YOU ALREADY KNEW?????” Continue reading →

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