Monthly Archives: November 2008

Straight Spouses and Their Families: A Morality Tale

It’s time to go back to the beginning, I think, to clarify why straight spouses need to be heard in the current conversations about social justice swirling around us. It is not because they are overlooked, which they are. Rather, straight spouses want desperately to share their wide lens on what happens to their families when their husbands or wives come out. Every family member — they, their gay or lesbian partners, and their children — is hurt by antigay sentiments and action, such as constitutional amendments and laws that limit legal marriage to that of a man and women. Continue reading

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Mark Foley

Former Congressman Mark Foley’s story attracts interest among straight spouses for one reason – the continued and impassioned denial of what truly happened can seem familiar to some women who have been married to homosexual men leading a double life. Continue reading

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Life After Prop 8

The defense of marriage as a union between men and women only goes on and on – with no acknowledgement of what our marriages are or were, and no interest in finding out. No interest in acknowledging our families and the dilemmas we face in reconciling the practice of our faith with our knowledge of this unique experience, no interest in affirming the directions in which our families can move forward, healing, building bridges with each other.
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How to Come Out to Your Husband or Wife

Straight spouses are entitled to know if their husband or wife is being unfaithful to them with a same sex partner.  It also is helpful for them to know if a gay husband or lesbian wife is unsure of their … Continue reading

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Vote Today, November 4, 2008

This election has been said to be the most important one of a lifetime. We have clear choices, and an unprecedented turnout is expected. Participate in what may be one of the most significant events of the early 21st century. Vote in the presidential election of 2008. Continue reading

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Defending the Family – Straight Spouses and Gay Marriage

As Election Day is upon us in the United States, close attention is being paid to efforts to outlaw gay marriage in three states. These efforts require great funding, debate, pressure, and tend to polarize communities. These efforts do nothing to serve or protect our families. They do nothing to make our children safe from threats and taunts at school. They do nothing to dedicate the tremendous resources of faith organizations toward recovery, support, and healing for straight spouses.

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