Monthly Archives: January 2009

Carolyn’s on TV!!! AGAIN!!!

We’re famous! At least in Washington DC! Many thanks to Carolyn Sega Lowengart for all her efforts on behalf of straight spouses, and for her appearance on the local ABC affiliate. Carolyn was interviewed for a followup to the local airing of Ted Haggard on Oprah. Continue reading

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The Trials of Ted Haggard – And His Wife, Too

Thursday evening at 8:00 pm EST, HBO will premiere The Trials of Ted Haggard. This documentary by Alexandra Pelosi traces the last two years in the life of the Haggard family. Yes, this is painful for us str8s to watch. But for those of us who are far enough along in our own healing, it is worthwhile for us to tune in, and consider what will be shown of Gayle Haggard’s experience and perspective. Continue reading

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Bye Bye to Don’t Ask Don’t Tell?

Whether we like the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell or not, one thing is certainly clear. No one is talking about what will happen to the straight husbands and wives of gay military members who out themselves or who are outed by others. So let’s talk about that here. The repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell will mean major changes for some military families – changes in their relationships, marriages, lifestyles, networks, and support systems. And for that reason, the Straight Spouse Network is here to help. Continue reading

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Donating to Straight Spouse Network on Ebay

If you would like to donate a portion of each sale you make on Ebay to the Straight Spouse Network, sign up for Ebay Givingworks and follow the instructions. If enough Ebayers get together to support SSN, we might be able to launch a Spotlight on a Cause page. Continue reading

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Distancing

Heterosexual spouses of gays and lesbians find that they need to practice “distancing” just as straight couples who have separated do. This can be very difficult if you are still living in the same house, due to the need to remain legally married or conceal homosexual orientation. Continue reading

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Honey, I’m Only a Little Bit Gay…..

It’s not uncommon in the course of a mixed orientation marriage for an individual with a same sex attraction to deny being gay. The fact is that human sexuality is a varied and subtle spectrum. Some people certainly do not fit the “labels”. But when it comes to a relationship going forward, all the straight spouse’s understanding of all the dynamics of same sex attraction will not matter one bit unless the straight person’s needs, perceptions, feelings and desires are given equal time and attention. Continue reading

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Happy New Year!

It’s important in this new year to take time for ourselves – to realize what is important to us, and about us – and recognize that our needs, perceptions, feelings and experiences are just as important as those of the people around us. Continue reading

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