Monthly Archives: March 2009

Whose Fault Is It Anyway?

Posted on March 27, 2009 by Straight Spouse

The experiences of women married to closeted gay men are finally coming to light more and more. On television, in books, on the internet, the subject of “how come she didn’t know”, “how can you tell”, and “marriage to a down low man” are no longer taboo. What never seems to be discussed in the general media is the blame game that wives of closeted gay husbands endure. For many women, recovering from marriage to a closeted homosexual husband means healing their own injured sexuality. Continue reading →

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Oprah and Fluid Sexuality

Posted on March 25, 2009 by Straight Spouse

When the promotions for Oprah this week showed that she was interviewing a lesbian, many straight spouses probably said “what again”? Programs about sexuality are nothing new for Oprah. Her program this week “Living without Labels” featured a woman who had been married, had daughters, and had a late in life realization that she is gay. In fact, her daughters told her she was a lesbian, noting how she looked at women. Several other women and a sex therapist were interviewed. The article in O, The Oprah Magazine “She’s So Fine” was a point of reference for the discussion. Continue reading →

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Moving Forward with Family

Posted on March 20, 2009 by Straight Spouse

Life events have a funny way of bringing back the initial feelings of disclosure or discovery for the straight spouse.

We think we’ve sorted it all out, and then we are invited to a family baptism, wedding, graduation. Or our children graduate, or get married. Or our children are invited to participate in an extended family gathering – and sometimes we are invited, sometimes not. Special occasions often pose special dilemmas for straight spouses. Continue reading →

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“F2F” – Meeting With Other Straight Spouses

Posted on March 18, 2009 by Straight Spouse

In some areas, the Straight Spouse Network has face to face (F2F) meetings set up on a regular basis. These can be just two individuals meeting for coffee, or an entire group meeting in a private home or public meeting area (such as a church or community center). What happens at our face to face meetings?

First of all, our meeting are private and confidential. Facilitators explain at the beginning that what is said in the room, stays in the room. Continue reading →

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Choosing a Therapist

Posted on March 15, 2009 by Straight Spouse

Ever have the feeling that your therapist just doesn’t get it? For many straight spouses, that’s a common issue. In both private and couples therapy, straight spouses often feel like their stages of grief and resolution are denied or misunderstood – and being in a position of doubting their own perceptions, they need the affirmation from a good therapist that their feelings and observations are valid.Therapy for mixed orientation couples and for straight spouses is an emerging specialty. Continue reading →

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What’s Cooking at Straight Spouse Network

Posted on March 13, 2009 by Straight Spouse

We’re just cookin’ up a storm here at the Straight Spouse Network.

Good home cookin, Str8 From The Kitchen.

In fact, that’s the title of the cook book we are publishing. With over 200 mouth watering recipes, you never need to buy another cook book. This one has got it all. Continue reading →

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