Monthly Archives: August 2009

Staying Married Instead

Posted on August 24, 2009 by Straight Spouse

Many straight spouses find shortly after discovery or disclosure that the resources for help and healing are few and far between. Therapists often do not know how to recognize our issues, or affirm our self esteem or respect. Many times, therapists, clergy, and counselors are fixed on the end result, and the homosexuality of our spouses.

For the minority among us who remain in love with our spouses and choose to stay married to them, this can prove to be difficult. This is where the peer support of the Straight Spouse Network is truly invaluable. We are able to support one another in the diverse paths we take in our relationships, and give one another the benefit of our experience. Continue reading →

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Guest Blog: A Bad Place – My Homophobia

Posted on August 19, 2009 by Straight Spouse

I needed help. But there was no one. Ultimately, I have found support, through SSN. But my point is that when I reached out for help to the logical place, the gay community, it wasn’t there, the knowledge and the experience that I hoped for wasn’t forthcoming. I was collateral damage. If I had seen that lesbian couple on my way TO Relate, rather than on the way FROM Relate, they might have been collateral damage too.

Homophobia is wrong. But this lack of support for us is a cause of homophobia. Continue reading →

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Reparative Therapies and the APA

Posted on August 16, 2009 by Straight Spouse

Here at the Straight Spouse Network, we were very interested in the recent affirmation by the American Psychological Association concerning the ill effects of reparative therapies.

We have long believed that reparative therapies do not actually change our spouses. While it is possible for bisexual people who wish to remain married to make decisions concerning their sexual behavior, in our experience changing actual orientation just does not happen. For some couples, reparative therapies and ex gay ministries just add a new layer of deceit, blame, and failure onto an already bad situation. Continue reading →

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Amity Buxton on BlogTalkRadio

Posted on August 11, 2009 by Straight Spouse

We’d like to thank Tracy Lawanda for her excellent interview of Amity Buxton on her blog Aword4U. The interview was featured on BlogtalkRadio. Amity appears approximately 10 minutes into the show. This is a Christian show, and Tracy asked a lot of great questions of Amity. Much of the discussion centers around truth in marriage. Continue reading →

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Straight Spouse Network is Proud to Announce….

Posted on August 9, 2009 by Straight Spouse

Now we’re proud! The Straight Spouse Network (SSN) has been named the Best of Northeast in the 2009 Pride Choice Awards, sponsored by Great Nonprofits, Guidestar, and Queerty. “It was through the Straight Spouse Network,” wrote one reviewer, “that I learned how to live again, how to face reality in the eye and stand tall. I was no longer alone. The men and women of the Straight Spouse Network understood the issues I was experiencing and with out being judgmental stood beside me and was my guide. Continue reading →

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