Monthly Archives: July 2010

Pretzel Logic

The term Pretzel Logic describes a twisted reasoning that always brings us back to the same unresolved place, where we are the only loose end if we do not subscribe to the apparent logic before us. The end result is that we ourselves become twisted, and have a much more difficult time with our own recovery. Continue reading

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Don’t Ask Don’t Tell: Lt. Choi Discharged

While Lt Choi and others who serve honorably are required to be discharged from military service if they disclose that they are homosexual, or are discovered to be homosexual, there are plenty of straight spouses who are married to gay people who are still active in the military. Continue reading

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Dirty Little Secret

This week I am so sad and so tired. Tired of being a Dirty Little Secret. What’s my secret and my crime? Falling in love and marrying a gay man. Continue reading

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Friends, Partners, Allies – We Need Your Help

The Straight Spouse Network in in the running for two huge grants, and we need votes to get them. We are especially asking our “gay allies” – those people and organizations who have supported SSN in the past, with monetary or in kind donations, or volunteer support. Continue reading

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Our Independence: Freedom to Help

For the straight spouse, a personal independence day can mean a lot of things. It can mean remembering the day of discovery or disclosure, and marking all the milestones that have happened in between the darkness of deception and the sometimes blinding light of truth. Continue reading

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