Cindy Chupack, a writer and producer of Sex and the City, knows full well what it is to be a straight spouse.  Chupack’s first husband disclosed to her that he was “figuring out” if he was gay or not very early in their marriage. They had just moved from New York to Los Angeles, and as a young bride she faced the very real sense of being alone and isolated with this discovery.

During the two years of the marriage, Cindy saw a therapist who advised her to get in touch with her gut feelings about what she wanted to do. She looked for help from others in similiar situations.  At the time, there was no Straight Spouse Network.  In an interview published by Psychology Today, Chupack says, “The day after it happened, I went to the self-help section in this little bookstore in L.A., and there was nothing for this situation. There might be now, but there wasn’t when this happened. And I remember there was a book called Loving Someone Gay, and it was for parents and teachers. So there just was nothing. And I thought, “This is terrible, I’m totally on my own, pioneering this problem in Los Angeles.”

That was then.  This is now.