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Affirmation

Very few people ask how a straight spouse is doing and what we need. Those who do will often not keep asking. We need help. We need understanding. We need affirmation. Continue reading

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The Second Arrow

If you got shot with an arrow would you shoot a second arrow into yourself? The straight spouse experience has given me many opportunities for target practice. Continue reading

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Unnatural Disasters – Take Time To Heal

Unlike the tsunami or earthquake, the crisis of discovery or disclosure in a mixed orientation marriage is a man made crisis. It is all too often survived alone, despite the profound change to the emotional, social, and familial landscape of our lives. The Straight Spouse Network is here so that no one need be alone when facing the unimaginable experience of discovering a spouse is gay. Continue reading

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The Smart Divorce and Straight Spouses

We’d like to thank Deborah Moskovitch, author of The Smart Divorce, for her recent article in Huffington Post about straight spouses and healing. Continue reading

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Recovery

One common frustration of straight spouses is that while we struggle to understand the gay experience or avoid it, few people within our general society or the LGBT part of it are attempting to understand us with the same zeal. While the Straight Spouse Network does support LGBT advocacy with two position papers concerning gay marriage and reparative therapies, our prime focus is on support of straight spouses and advocacy for our own needs. Sadly, we are forgotten by those supporting our former spouses in their new life, and are often ignored or marginalized by those who assist families in crisis. Continue reading

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The Health in Us

Among str8 spouses, getting healthy is a big interest. Mentally healthy, emotionally healthy, physically healthy. It’s part of healing. For some, getting on the path to healing means getting out of the way of abuse first. All the focus on forgiveness, healing, moving forward does no good if you keep getting rewounded. Reclaiming old friendships, making new friends, and planning on time to enjoy social events, company, fun, laughter, and new celebrations are all great ways to help us heal and move forward. For some, a renewed emphasis on spirituality, religion, or a new direction in faith leads to a centered wholeness that heals the spirit. For others, it’s a new job, new residence, new city. Renewal is also part of healing. Continue reading

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Brad Pitt, Gay Marriage, and Charitable Donations

What if famous people publicly supported the Straight Spouse Network? Continue reading

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What is a Straight Spouse?

If you are a heterosexual who has discovered that your husband or wife is having an affair with a person of the same sex, or has an interest in same sex pornography or photographs or cross dresses, you are a … Continue reading

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