Yes, there really are bisexual men and women. Bisexuality means being sexually and emotionally attracted to both sexes. Rarely is the attraction 50:50. It's usually weighted more toward one or the other sex. In addition, the pull toward one or the other sex can vary over time.
Bisexuality is a difficult concept to grasp. It goes against our way of looking at things as either/or. A good way to get a handle on it is to look at Fritz Klein's Sexual Orientation Grid. Here,Klein breaks sexual orientation down into seven dimensions and has people look at the dimensions from three perspectives: past, present, and "ideal" (in the person's mind).
The seven dimensions include sexual attraction, sexual behavior, sexual fantasies, emotional preference, social preference, life style (do you live as a gay, lesbian, bi, or straight), and self identity (sexual and political). One's answers to the first five are in terms of which sex(es). The answers to the last two are in terms of how one lives and how one sees oneself as a sexual being and someone who wants to make a statement "politically." The best way to understand it more fully is to fill out the grid for oneself.
So, someone's saying he or she is bisexual is only a part of the picture. What an individual does sexually and emotionally and how he or she sees himself or herself -- not to mention the emotional, sexual, and social factors -- all play important roles.
For more information, google "Fritz Klein Sexual Orientation Grid" His book, The Bisexual Option, is helpful reading. Even though the title is misleading. Bisexuality, like heterosexuality and being gay, isn't an option. Only the way a person chooses to live is optional.
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