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ssn logoBy Laura Long, Board member, Straight Spouse Network
Most of us are familiar with and all are grateful to Amity Pierce Buxton, who founded the Straight Spouse Network in 1986 and continues to play an active role in the organization. Some may also be aware that as a non-profit 501 c(3),  SSN is governed by a Board of Directors. But most probably don’t know much about the Board.

Our current Board of Directors is comprised of nine volunteer straight spouse members, four men and five women. We meet at least once a month, connecting via conference call from coast to coast and into Canada, with board members from CA, MI, MD, PA, NY, MA and Ottawa. As a Board, we represent straight spouses everywhere, our varied journeys dating back to 2000, and beginning as recently as 2014.

Our mission of reaching out, healing, and building bridges among straight spouses and with the wider world is our common goal. The recent media coverage of Ellen DeGeneres publicly coming out in 1997, reminds us how far attitudes toward LGBTQ individuals have evolved. “The character on my show was clearly struggling. It was pretty clear it would be an easy transition for her to realize she was gay, which was why her relationships with men weren’t working out,” Ellen said in her interview with ABC news. Ellen’s subsequent personal and professional struggles and successes are well known and rightfully respected.

Our struggles, and those of our spouses, are mostly private. Societal recognition and media portrayals of LGBTQ challenges has grown exponentially over the past two decades, but recognition of the straight spouse journey remains limited.

As individuals and as an organization, our outreach extends not only to straight spouses, but to the wider communities we are all part of. As individuals, all of us on the Board are grateful for the peer support we received through SSN. And as an organization we remain committed to making sure that support is there for you and others we continue to connect with.

Laura Long 2016 BoardLaura Long grew up in Cleveland Heights, Ohio. In 1978 she went off to Boston College, where she majored in nursing and met her future husband. Married nearly twenty years with two preteens, Laura discovered quite by accident that her husband was gay and essentially leading a duplicitous life.

They endured a turbulent transition as a couple but kept their priorities focused on the needs of their sons, who have grown into terrific adults. The Straight Spouse Network was an invaluable cornerstone of insight and support via the local support group, and online, throughout the many stages of the Straight Spouse journey. The Unitarian Church, also a place of healing, was where Laura met her second husband. They have a son together. Over the years they’ve continued to share holiday and family celebrations with Laura’s ex and his various boyfriends; scaffolding together their own version of a modern family.

Laura has a PhD in health policy and works in home healthcare and hospice.

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