HOW TO HELP SOMEONE GET HELP
So, you’ve gotten a lot of support from people you’ve met in the Straight Spouse Network, in person, on the phone, online. And you find out that you are not alone – and you start to be the go to person for friends who “know someone who has a problem just like you”. Only maybe they are not in your area – or they have a different path – or they are just not ready to talk yet. How do you help them? Gee, is there a group, who can call this person…..
First, the best thing is to direct straight spouses and their supportive family members to the Straight Spouse Network website www.straightspouse.org. Here they find shared experiences, a public forum to read, resources for more information and online support communities, and best of all, a connection to reach out for more help at the top of the home page.
When someone contacts us through the website, our triage team goes into action.There’s a response within 48 hours, often sooner. The person is contacted by email or phone, whichever they prefer. They can then find out more about local group meetings, or online connections. They might ask to speak with someone who has remained married, someone who speaks their language. Our team does their best to match up the person with the right contact or leader for confidential peer to peer support.
On the website, people who are straight spouses needing help and people who want to help them will find links to online resources, and articles on this blog – and links to related groups and blogs. Support and information are here, and you can take it at your own pace. Our forum is public, but our face to face groups and individual calls are confidential. Affiliated online communities must respect confidentiality and be supportive according to the guidelines established by the Straight Spouse Network.
We dont tell people what to do, but we affirm their perceptions, decisions, struggles and triumphs. We support building bridges to the gay community as they are literally family for many of us. Our primary mission is to provide real support at an unreal time for the heterosexuals who discover that their spouse or significant other is lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgendered, or questioning their sexuality.