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How to Find Support

How to Find Support

You’ve discovered that your spouse is gay; maybe they came out voluntarily, or you found the evidence yourself.

Maybe you’re not sure your spouse is gay, but need to talk to someone about your suspicions. Either way, you need to sort out your feelings, decide how you want to proceed. But one of the most difficult things is the sense that you are all alone in this.

The Straight Spouse Network is here for you, with personal contacts throughout the United States and around the world. Contacting us is the first step to discovering that you are not alone. We have a wide variety of support options and services available.  For those who want to research the topics of being married to a closeted gay, lesbian, bi-sexual or transgender person, this website has a wide range of in-depth material at your fingertips and many links to outside organizations that deal with similar issues. Once you are ready, there are a number of what we call “Face2Face” options where you make contact with a qualified volunteer or join one of the many local support groups located around the US and the world.

Here is an overview of the support options available.

  • Contact a Qualified Straight Spouse Network Volunteer  - When you call or email the Straight Spouse Network, you can expect a response within 72 hours.  The responder will give you the name and email address of the person who is your closest qualified volunteer or Support Group Facilitator. You can then reach out to them for local information and support.  ALL emails/calls are kept strictly confidential. To be put in touch with one of these contacts please use the link to the contact form below.
    • Click Contact Us to use our email form
    • Or phone us at (201) 825-7763
  • Contact a Local Support Group - Local Support Groups are found around the country. Face2Face groups meet together to  give you the support and understanding you need. These groups are facilitated by qualified group leaders; volunteers who have been qualified by the Executive Director, after the application process. They  are members of the Straight Spouse Network, and are straight spouses themselves (i.e. a persons who have gone through a similar experience).  You can discuss how you, your children, your extended family and friends are affected by this turn of events. As group meetings progress, participants help one another by examining further issues everyone faces.  ALL support group meetings are confidential.  
    • Click here to learn more about support groups and see if there is a local support group in your area.
    • Click Contact Us to use our email form to express interest or answer questions
    • Or phone us at (201) 825-7763
  • Straight Spouse Network Open Forum - Several years ago, one of our board members saw that there was a need for an “open” forum or list where anyone could post questions and make comments about straight spouse issues without having to join an email support list. The Straight Spouse Network “Open” Forum came about as a result.This forum can be an excellent resource to ask questions and learn about various situations in which we find ourselves. However, we caution you that it is an “open” forum. It is not in any way confidential. Any one can post. A number of LGBT people post on this forum fairly regularly to share their side of the experience.
    • Click here to go directly to the Straight Spouse Network Open Forum
  • Online Resources – Straight Spouse Network maintains an extensive library of online resources, ranging from personal stories of other people who have gone through similar experiences, book resources and reviews for adults and children, online blogs and forums and much more.
    • Click Resources to go to the online resource section.

If you would like to help.

  • We have many ways you can help ranging from donations to volunteering your time.  You can see the options on our How You Can Help page.
  • If you are interesting in becoming a Qualified Straight Spouse Network Volunteer or Qualified Group Facilitator, please fill out the Facilitator/Contact Application form at this link.

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Individual information is used only so we can get in touch with you and provide you with support and/or resources.  We absolutely, positively, will not release or provide your contact information to ANY outside person or agency without your express permission.

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