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Unreal Reality

Posted by on Jul 17, 2017 in Blog | 7 comments

Unreal Reality
By Janet McMonagle, Communications Director, Straight Spouse Network
From time to time, the Straight Spouse Network receives requests from media organizations who claim they want to connect with real live straight spouses. They want to tell the stories of our mixed orientation marriages, and feature actual people as part of the story.

These organizations appear to be interested in actually telling our stories. But many times, the story has already been written, and they want to dress it up. The truth of our experiences may or may not survive in their version of our own reality.

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Shhhh…Don’t Say That! Part 2

Posted by on Jun 19, 2017 in Blog | 45 comments

We need support and resources from professionals who are capable of taking into account that our spouses are both gay and mentally ill, without silencing or shutting us down as we reveal our own stories and tell the truth of our own lives.

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Shhhh…Don’t Say That! Part 1

Posted by on Jun 13, 2017 in Blog | 28 comments

Shhhh…Don’t Say That! Why Can’t We Talk About Coping With Our Gay Spouses’ Mental Health Issues? Part 1 By Kristin Kalbli

Our mental health culture is gun shy when it comes to talking about personalities in which narcissism and homosexuality exist simultaneously (even if causally unrelated), lest there be any whiff of conflating being LGBT with a psychiatric disorder.

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All 2 Million of Us and Counting – Because We Count Too!

Posted by on Jun 9, 2017 in Blog | 6 comments

All 2 Million of Us and Counting – Because We Count Too!

For so many of us, it remains difficult to tell our stories, or have anyone truly listen without proposing a quick fix, or an admonition to “just get over it”. And that is why the Straight Spouse Network is invaluable in the global support we provide.

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News From Our Board

Posted by on May 27, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Our current Board of Directors is comprised of nine volunteer straight spouse members, four men and five women. We meet at least once a month, connecting via conference call from coast to coast and into Canada, with board members from CA, MI, MD, PA, NY, MA and Ottawa.

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Staying Married Instead

Posted by on Apr 27, 2017 in Blog | 15 comments

Despite the popular opinion that a mixed orientation marriage is doomed, some straight spouses do choose to remain married to their LGBT spouse. Mixed orientation couples who choose to remain married can benefit from counseling that opens up communication between husband and wife. They can also benefit from peer to peer support from others who make the choice to remain together, at least for the time being.

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Whose Fault is It Anyway?

Posted by on Apr 14, 2017 in Blog | 58 comments

We don’t know whose fault it is, but we do know these things – you are not to blame for your spouse’s sexual orientation. They are not to blame for your addictions or mental health issues. But, living without acknowledgement, affirmation, and honesty does not aid in recovery.

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A Friendly Divorce from a Gay Spouse

Posted by on Mar 16, 2017 in Blog | 5 comments

If the news of a divorce from a gay spouse is ever good, this would probably qualify as one of the best case scenarios we’ve ever seen. Popular parenting blogger, Jill Smokler, of Scary Mommy announced her upcoming divorce from her husband on her website after careful consideration. Then, her husband submitted a guest article on his perspective.

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Straight Spouses – Fake News and the Real Story

Posted by on Feb 28, 2017 in Blog | 25 comments

It usually starts out like this: A reporter or writer contacts the Straight Spouse Network. They want to tell the story of actual real straight spouses. This makes us really excited!

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How Do We Help?

Posted by on Jan 31, 2017 in Blog | 10 comments

More people than ever are contacting the Straight Spouse Network for support when they discover that their spouse is LGBTQ. So what are their stories?

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