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News From Our Board

Posted by on May 27, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Our current Board of Directors is comprised of nine volunteer straight spouse members, four men and five women. We meet at least once a month, connecting via conference call from coast to coast and into Canada, with board members from CA, MI, MD, PA, NY, MA and Ottawa.

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Staying Married Instead

Posted by on Apr 27, 2017 in Blog | 15 comments

Despite the popular opinion that a mixed orientation marriage is doomed, some straight spouses do choose to remain married to their LGBT spouse. Mixed orientation couples who choose to remain married can benefit from counseling that opens up communication between husband and wife. They can also benefit from peer to peer support from others who make the choice to remain together, at least for the time being.

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Whose Fault is It Anyway?

Posted by on Apr 14, 2017 in Blog | 58 comments

We don’t know whose fault it is, but we do know these things – you are not to blame for your spouse’s sexual orientation. They are not to blame for your addictions or mental health issues. But, living without acknowledgement, affirmation, and honesty does not aid in recovery.

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A Friendly Divorce from a Gay Spouse

Posted by on Mar 16, 2017 in Blog | 5 comments

If the news of a divorce from a gay spouse is ever good, this would probably qualify as one of the best case scenarios we’ve ever seen. Popular parenting blogger, Jill Smokler, of Scary Mommy announced her upcoming divorce from her husband on her website after careful consideration. Then, her husband submitted a guest article on his perspective.

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Straight Spouses – Fake News and the Real Story

Posted by on Feb 28, 2017 in Blog | 25 comments

It usually starts out like this: A reporter or writer contacts the Straight Spouse Network. They want to tell the story of actual real straight spouses. This makes us really excited!

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How Do We Help?

Posted by on Jan 31, 2017 in Blog | 9 comments

More people than ever are contacting the Straight Spouse Network for support when they discover that their spouse is LGBTQ. So what are their stories?

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The December Dilemma

Posted by on Dec 19, 2016 in Blog | 15 comments

Holidays are wonderful times for families to get together and renew relationships, celebrate traditions, and share the latest news.  For families undergoing the stresses of divorce, or the recent discovery that a spouse is gay, those same holidays can be awkward and painful.  It can hurt to see traditions discarded, or to be excluded from family gatherings, or be told that the spouse has to be excluded or included.

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World AIDS Day is Today, December 1

Posted by on Dec 1, 2016 in Blog | 1 comment

World AIDS Day is today, December 1. It is a day to recognize that many people who are infected are unaware that they are HIV positive, as they have never been tested. Many partners of HIV positive people are unaware that they need to be tested.

Yes. That includes straight spouses.

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Posted by on Nov 14, 2016 in Blog | 21 comments

When I express my discomfort, my doubts, my pain, he tells me I’ve shamed him; he calls me cisgenderist, transphobic, a TERF. Yet living in his closet—where I never agreed to live—I have no one else to talk to. I can’t tell my family, my friends, my colleagues; to do so would be to “out” him.

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Straight Spouses of Transgender People Speak Up

Posted by on Nov 4, 2016 in Blog | 9 comments

We would like the month of November here at the Straight Spouse Network to be Transgender Straight Spouse Awareness month. We can start by telling our stories as spouses of transgender people.

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