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The December Dilemma

Posted by on Dec 19, 2016 in Blog | 15 comments

Holidays are wonderful times for families to get together and renew relationships, celebrate traditions, and share the latest news.  For families undergoing the stresses of divorce, or the recent discovery that a spouse is gay, those same holidays can be awkward and painful.  It can hurt to see traditions discarded, or to be excluded from family gatherings, or be told that the spouse has to be excluded or included.

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World AIDS Day is Today, December 1

Posted by on Dec 1, 2016 in Blog | 1 comment

World AIDS Day is today, December 1. It is a day to recognize that many people who are infected are unaware that they are HIV positive, as they have never been tested. Many partners of HIV positive people are unaware that they need to be tested.

Yes. That includes straight spouses.

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Uncoupling

Posted by on Nov 14, 2016 in Blog | 20 comments

Uncoupling
When I express my discomfort, my doubts, my pain, he tells me I’ve shamed him; he calls me cisgenderist, transphobic, a TERF. Yet living in his closet—where I never agreed to live—I have no one else to talk to. I can’t tell my family, my friends, my colleagues; to do so would be to “out” him.

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Straight Spouses of Transgender People Speak Up

Posted by on Nov 4, 2016 in Blog | 9 comments

We would like the month of November here at the Straight Spouse Network to be Transgender Straight Spouse Awareness month. We can start by telling our stories as spouses of transgender people.

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Opening a Dialogue

Posted by on Nov 2, 2016 in Blog | 9 comments

A special two-part podcast for National Coming Out Day, featuring straight spouse Emily Reese, was presented by author Rick Clemons.

It is important for us to be heard, seen, and understood. We appreciate the opportunity Rick has given to Emily to discuss her journey openly and share the difficult message of the process of healing.

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Today Is National Coming Out Day

Posted by on Oct 11, 2016 in Blog | 9 comments

Today Is National Coming Out Day
Today is National Coming Out Day. It is a day that the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) has designated as a day to celebrate and support those who live openly as LGBTQ people or as their allies.

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Do You Have To Forgive?

Posted by on Oct 3, 2016 in Blog | 17 comments

Straight spouses who have forgiven their LGBTQ ex husbands and ex wives say that it is the most liberating thing they have done for themselves, as they move forward in a life they never expected. But few have done this instantly. It takes time, growth, and support.

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World Beard Day is September 3

Posted by on Aug 27, 2016 in Blog | 24 comments

Here at the Straight Spouse Network, we thought folks might like to know that Saturday, September 3 is World Beard Day.

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Internalized Homophobia is Real

Posted by on Aug 21, 2016 in Blog | 22 comments

I had the chance to climb into my ex-wife’s skin and walk around in it one day.  I didn’t expect it to turn out the way it did.

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Frankly My Dear, I am the Victim of Homophobia Too!

Posted by on Aug 1, 2016 in Blog | 61 comments

Frankly My Dear, I am the Victim of Homophobia Too!

By Kristin Kalbli

It is the definition of entitlement for one person to use another as a beard, a shield, a prop. My ex-husband stole years of my life, depriving me of the love, sexual intimacy and pleasure I might have found with a heterosexual husband.

Is the straight spouse’s life disposable because it “takes time to live the life you’re meant to live?”  I cannot imagine anything so disregarding, so dismissive, and so self-serving. 

OH WAIT, yes I can, because I lived it

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